What you'll learn from this episode:
- Common mistakes people make when they start a weight loss goal
- How to assess your commitment to your goal
- How to ensure that failure isn’t an option
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The Biggest Determinator For Someone’s Weight Loss Success
So last episode I talked about my story and why we don’t take the action we want when it comes to how we eat. Today I want to get into the biggest determinator for someone’s success with weight loss. It’s a skill that will make or break your success.
Being all in.
It’s an area that people typically don’t spend enough time on before starting a weight loss journey. And we often think we are committed when we really aren’t. But I’ll show you how to be sure you are all in and fully committed to your weight loss success
So what does semi commitment look like
- I’m going to give this program a try
- I’m going to test out this new workout routine
- I’m hoping to lose 40 pounds this year
What do these have in common?
Trying, testing, and hoping. This half way in kind of thinking is already telling your brain that a part of you doesn’t think it’s going to happen and gives you an out to quit. Trying something out isn’t permanent. Hope is great but hope isn’t making the decision to do something. It’s just the idea of a possibility, not certainty.
There’s also another sneaky way we avoid full on commitment. It even seems like the smart thing to do. But this sneaky semi commitment is putting a deadline on your weight loss goals.
Let me guess you’re questioning this. But hear me out.
You might say something like I want to lose 30 pounds by June. It sounds super motivating, right? You might even think to yourself, I can see myself at my goal weight in my new bikini. It’s going to be awesome.
And setting a deadline is like a company who plans their revenue goals right?
Well not exactly. The main difference is, if the company misses their target, they don’t shut down operations. But that’s what most of us do when we give ourselves a target date on our weight loss.
If we miss the deadline, we tell ourselves, “see I knew you couldn’t do it, it’s just like all the other attempts you failed”. Or even before missing the deadline, if you see that your weight loss isn’t happening quickly enough you might think, this is awful! I’m going to miss my goal!. What’s the point? I should just give up. I failed.
And the thing is, if you give up then you do fail
Burning Your Boats
So what does going all in look like?
Instead of a deadline it’s deciding that you’re going to lose this 30 lbs. no matter what and you don’t care how long it takes or how many mistakes you make. You’re going to figure it out and make it happen.
100% commitment also means burning your boats.
Allegedly this term comes from the famous Spanish conqueror Hernan Cortes. According to the story, he landed in Mexico with the plan to conquer the Aztecs. And to prevent any men from deserting, he told them to burn the boats. So they either had to conquer the land or die.
While I’m definitely not saying you should go out and brutally conquer some people, the concept has lived on over these years because it’s so powerful. When you burn your boats in whatever way you can, you make giving up not an option.
Everyone has their own version of burning their boat that works for them. When choosing how to burn your boat in the best way for you, it has to feel like there’s no turning back now
That may look like announcing your weight loss goals on Facebook. Maybe it’s creating a contract for yourself that you are done overeating to the point it’s uncomfortable and hanging it on your fridge. It might be signing up for one of my coaching programs and investing in a healthier future for yourself. Or it might be as simple as deciding that you are going to be the type of mother that has the energy to keep up with her children.
Whatever your version of burning the boat is, make sure that once you decide you are all in. You are making a commitment to the CEO of your life so breaking promises to yourself isn’t an option.
How I Became All In
I learned about this full on commitment when going through life coach training. The financial commitment I made to becoming a Life Coach was sizeable. My goal was to become a full time coach but I needed to prove to myself first that I could change my life before I could attempt to help anyone else.
I told myself that I would get to my goal weight range no matter what. I didn’t give a deadline because I didn’t care how long it took. This was going to be the last time I was going to lose weight and if I slipped up there was going to be no spiraling into days of self-pity. This was part of the learning process. As long as I didn’t give up, I didn’t fail.
Another Way to Ensure You’re All In
Okay so you’re ready to be all in. So, I have some more pointers for your success. To be sure that you stay all in, ask yourself why you are doing this? Being 100% committed is extremely important. But knowing why you are so committed is how you will make that commitment last.
Take some time today to write down all the reasons why you want to lose this weight. It could be that…
- You’re concerned for your health
- You want to have more energy for your flourishing career
- You want to be proud at how much weight you lost
- Or it could just be that you want to feel confident wearing a bikini
There’s no right answer. Just be true to why you are doing this. And remind yourself frequently why you decided to go through this discomfort of losing weight so you can keep that commitment going.
Some of my reasons where:
- I was tired of being tired all of the time — When I would overeat junk foods, I would wake up super groggy. I hate nothing more than being tired. Also, everyone around me hates when I’m tired. I’m definitely not the most pleasant when I’m lacking sleep
- I like how I look at a certain weight range — There’s no shame in wanting to be at a lower weight. I learned to love and appreciate my body before I lost the weight but that didn’t mean that I didn’t want to still lose it
- I also was so over being uncomfortably full — There was this comedian that said “I don’t stop when I’m full, I stop when I hate myself”. So yeah, I was done doing that. I hated the heart burn and how uncomfortable my pants would feel and all of the bloating. My body wanted to be treated right
Your why’s will be personal for you. Don’t censor yourself, just explore with curiosity.
- The first and most important step you need to take in order to set yourself for lasting weight loss success is to make sure your commitment is all in
- Are you trying to lose weight or are you committed to doing it no matter how long it takes?
- Have you burned your boat? Meaning, have you made your commitment in a way where there’s no turning back, only moving forward?
- Okay so now it’s time for action. Write down your commitment and why you’re committing to this weight loss journey